Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Wala akong masabi... mahal ko pa rin siya.
Isa sa mga madalas pagusapan sa PILIPINAS ay ang mga pinoy na piniling mag-ibang bansa para buhayin ang pamilya sa pinas. Ayon sa statistics ng POEA, 1,077,623 OFWs ang meron as of 2007. Hindi pa kabilang dito ang mga TNT na pasimpleng nagtatrabaho sa ibang bansa. Hindi ko lang alam kung ilang porsyento ang binagsak ng bilang ng OFWs ngayong recession.
Napanood ko sa balita na may mga nagwewelgang OFWs kahapon. Sila ang mga matinding naapektuhan ng pagbagsak ng economiya ng buong mundo. Hindi talaga ako pabor sa pagwewelga pero ika nga ng isa kong propesor nung college, kung walang mag wewelga, hindi maririnig ng gobyerno ang hinaing ng mga apektadong tao. Ok sige, bahala sila. Naiintindihan ko naman talaga ang nararamdaman nila. OFW din kasi ang nanay ko noon, ang tatay ko naman, OFW pa rin hanggang ngayon.
Nurse ang nanay ko sa Saudi dati ng sampung taon. Seaman naman ang tatay ko mula pa noong teenager siya, boss na nga siya ngayon sa barko pero shempre kabilang pa din siya sa bilang ng OFW. Lahat ng naipundar ng mga magulang ko, ang kinakain namin sa araw-araw, pati ang sweldo ng kasambahay, hanggang sa pang bayad ng internet connection ko ngayon.. lahat ng ito.. dahil sa OFW. Kahit kailan, hindi ako nagmalaki, at kahit kailan, hindi ako nagreklamo sakanila dahil alam kong mas mahirap pa din ang ginagawa nila.
Hindi pa man ako nakaranas ng pagtatrabaho sa ibang bansa, alam ko pa rin ang hirap nila lahat. Hindi ko na kailangan makita, basta alam ko lang. Aminin man natin o hindi, sila pa rin ang isa sa mga may matinding partisipasyon sa pagpapa-unlad ng Pilipinas. Wala akong pakealam sa pagiisip ng ibang tao. Ang mga tao na kung maghusga nalang ng mga OFWs e akala mo tumatae sila ng pera. Dahil para sa akin, walang karapatang magyabang ang sino mang wala namang naidulot na maganda sa buhay. Ano man ang trabaho mo, ikaw man ay isang basurero o taga linis ng aquarium sa America, o yaya ka sa HongKong, wala ka namang intensyon kung hindi ang pabutihin ang buhay ng mga mahal mo sa buhay. Nakakalungkot nga lang isipin na may mga ibang tao na hindi marunong magpasalamat sa mga OFW. Ang mga taong hindi marunong makiramdam. Sila ang mga taong WALANG PAKIALAM.
Alam ko na hindi biro ang katayuan ng ekonomiya ng buong mundo ngayon. Maraming tao ang nawalan ng trabaho, maraming tao ang hindi pa rin nagkakatrabaho, at maraming pinoy ang napauwi dito. Ang mga hindi na-swerte sa buhay na ang pera ng mga foreigners lang ang talagang bumubuhay sa kanila... pero sa kasamaang palad, nawalan sila pag-asa dahil kailangan nilang umuwi ulit dito. Hindi ko sinisisi ang gobyerno, dahil kung merong dapat sisihin, lahat naman ng tao may kasalanan. Kaya bawal magmarunong ang mga taong wala naman talagang alam ok? BAWAL.
Para sa mga sinuswerte, wag pa rin nating kalimutang makiramay sa mga minamalas. Dahil lagi nating tandaan... bilog ang mundo. Pana-panahon lang yan. hehe
Para sa mga pinoy na mang-gagawa sa ibang bansa, sa mga nagtatago para lang makasimple sa pagtatrabaho sa amerika, para mga seaman, para sa mga nurse, para sa mga domestic helper, para sa mga driver, mekaniko, carpintero, matador... para sa lahat ng OFWs... dadating din ang araw na makakaahon ang dapat maka-ahon. Wala na akong masabi................. bilib ako sa inyo!
Friday, February 13, 2009
Hindi ko alam kung bakit bumabalik ang ganitong panaginip sa akin ngayon. Sabi kasi sa internet, ang ibig sabihin daw ng "hinahabol" sa panaginip, may tinatakbukan kang problema.. basta parang ganon. Tototoo nga naman. Pero bakit ngayon? e ngayon nga, nagbabago na pananaw ko sa buhay e. Edi sana nung isang buwan pa ko binabangungot kung ganon diba?
Hindi ko na ikekwento ang panaginip ko, kasi madugo! Pero ilalagay ko na lang ang ibig sabihin ng panaginip ko (ayon sa dream interpretation online).
"I'm Being Chased"
Chase dreams is one of several common dream themes. As with most of the common dreams, they often stem from feelings of anxiety in your walking life. Running is an instinctive response to physical threats in your environment. In these dreams, you can be pursued by an attacker, an animal or an unknown figure, who wants to hurt or possibly kill you. In turn, you run, hide or try to outwit your pursuer. Your actions in the dream parallel how you respond to pressure and cope with fears, stress or various situations in your waking life. Instead of confronting the situation, you are running away and avoiding it. Ask yourself who is the one chasing you so that you can gain understanding and insight on the source of your fears and anxieties.
The pursuer or attacker who is chasing you in your dream may also represent an aspect of yourself. Your own feelings of anger, jealousy, fear, and possibly love, can assume the appearance of threatening figure. The shadowy figure can also symbolize rejected characteristics of your self. You may be projecting these feelings onto the unknown chaser. Next time you have a chase dream, turn around and confront your pursuer. Ask them why they are chasing you. Perhaps you are running away from something. What are you trying to run from?
If you are the one doing the chasing, then the dream may highlight your drive and ambition to go after something you want. Or perhaps the dream suggests that you are falling behind and having to catch up with everyone else.
Consider the distance or gap between you and your pursuer. This indicates your closeness to the issue. If the pursuer is gaining on you, then it suggests that the problem is not going to go away. The problem will surround you until you confront and address it. However, if you are able to widen the gap between your pursuer, then the problem is becoming less and less of an issue. You are able to successful distance yourself from the problem. In essence, the problem is fading away.
A more direct analysis of chase dreams is the fear of being attacked. Such dreams are more common among women than men, who may feel physically vulnerable in the urban environment. These dreams are inspired by fears of violence and sexual assault in which we are so over-exposed from the media, which magnifies such fears.
Wednesday, February 04, 2009
In a relationship public service announcement, Jake tells us whom to avoid (himself included!).
Like all men, I’ve committed some royal screwups when it comes to women. But as your resident male columnist, I’ve also made some observations about different types of daters that deserve to be passed along. Consider this your road map for where you don’t want to go in your love life.
1. Rebound Guy
Knowing how bummed I’ve been since my ex Claudia left for Europe, my buddy tried to set me up with his “hot coworker.” Very kind of him, but I declined. With my heart stuck in international customs, there’s no way I could make a connection. Not that I wasn’t tempted. We men secretly hope we’ll never have to deal with our feelings and instead can “fix” our sadness with a new woman. Problem is, we’re always comparing her to the ex—how she is in bed, how her butt looks in jeans. Real mature stuff that you’d be wise to avoid by dating us after we’ve healed.
2. Disappearing Guy
Some seemingly normal guys have a bad habit of vanishing. Excuses like “work’s really busy” may be true, but there’s often something else going on. My old roommate tried to woo his new girlfriend while still dating his old one. I also know someone who told a woman he was single in New York, although he was married in Ohio. Both guys checked out for days at a time.
When you’re just starting to date, it’s not like you’re tracking a person’s every movement. Still, the giveaway is erratic contact—is he in touch every day and then suddenly MIA? Does he often cancel plans? Or does he suddenly want to meet up in an hour, after not calling all week? Beware. 5 secrets all guys keep from you!
3. Slick Guy
With his sporty car, high-tech cell phone and Swedish designer toothbrush, my college roommate managed to hide his insecurity behind hip stuff. He never let women get close for fear they’d find him out. So women wound up feeling rejected when he was the one who sucked.
My advice: If his life looks like a magazine spread, steer clear. Say what you will about the guy who has a painting of poker-playing dogs or a mountain of laundry, but I promise you this: He’s real.
8 things guys say they hate about women but secretly love.
4. Rude Guy
I’m amazed at what men get away with. A partial list of nasty moves I’ve witnessed: checking out the waitress, fiddling with a BlackBerry during dinner, asking the cute bartender for her number when his date is in the bathroom. If a man lets the door slam shut instead of opening it for you, make that all the closure you need.
5. Grabby Guy
Hands on thighs, stroking things that didn’t ask to be stroked, sexual innuendos when you barely know each other—he may try to explain these things with an “Oh, I’m so attracted to you I can’t help it” line. But no matter how smokin’ hot you are, he can help it. And if you’re not getting the respect you want early on, he probably won’t surprise you with it later.
6. Last Year’s Guy
Long nights and a fear of being single forever can make going back to an ex seem mighty attractive. I’ve been guilty of it twice, both during lonely times in the dead of winter. Recycling romance seemed far easier than the unknown, and it was...for the two months before we rediscovered exactly why we broke up in the first place. What’s the lesson here? Move forward, not back. And know that it’s better to be out there looking than stuck on a couch with some guy you’re just going to wind up dumping anyway. He might be happy, but you deserve more.