Monday, October 09, 2017

Dad

Dad would always insist for mom to travel even though it was always debatable
whether his presence was really necessary. He said he has traveled the world
already and he’s just glad to be home to relax.
I remember they were a bit pushy to get their visa application done because finally,
they both agreed to travel together. One take, and they got it.
Unfortunately, dad’s work schedule was a bit tricky. He was sent back to work for
a 6-12 month contract. Come September 2016, without dad, mom and I traveled
together and we were both excited.
Dad arrived in Philippines a day after our departure. I remember he was ecstatic
about mom’s first time in the Land of the Free. He would call me just to ask
how our day was reminding me to look after mom. He was very proud of me.
He said I’m used to travelling so I should know the drill.
Then he spilled the news to us.
His loss of appetite.
I was never that worried of him but when I was travelling back to the Philippines,
I couldn’t stop myself from tearing up. I arrived home and he was the first person
to welcome me.
He looked pale. He’s definitely sick.
After several tries of convincing him, he finally agreed to see the doctor.
It was a normal busy day at work. I was facilitating a meeting when my phone rang.
BOOM. He’s diagnosed with colon cancer, stage 4.
I went back to the meeting room and forced to finish the discussion so I could absorb
the worst news I just received in my life.
What would a normal person feel? Do I need to hysterically cry over it? But where?
I knew I needed to burst out. But how?
Days after, my mom finally arrived in the country. We had our family photo taken and
a little dine-out-together. We were glad to be complete again but we all knew that
something was wrong.
Fast forward to May 2017: Though, I will never know what was on his mind during that time, I felt that he was happy and contented on his birthday. It was a usual celebration with family and cousins. As I was observing him laugh his heart out, I wondered if that would be his last birthday with us. Reality bites, I know.
02 July 2017: We brought dad to the hospital due to unrelieved pain in his stomach. Had I known that it was his last day at home, I would have taken a lot of pictures with him all over the place.
07 July 2017: His body started to release blood which we couldn’t trace where it was coming from. I thought that was the end. I wanted to wail my heart out but I had to hold it because mom was having her moment too. But dad was a fighter. He survived.
09 July 2017: Dad died in the afternoon. We talked about this when he was still alive. We had our long discussions on how he wanted to die. Mom was not happy about it but dad was clear on everything. He wanted to be in his sleep.
Dad did not die while sleeping. He was fully awake. While he was catching his breath,
I was praying to God to stop his pain. It was my birthday gift. I asked for it. And HE answered. God doesn’t make mistakes. He has decided. And that was it.
I could have asked God to prolong his agony but I didn’t. I could have asked God
to let him live longer so I could celebrate my birthday with him alive but I didn’t.
Maybe that was a bad call, but I knew that time that my dad needed to go.
Dad taught me well. He would always let me have difficult decisions on major
things without any regrets. And so I did.
Now, a month later, I still can’t believe that he’s gone. Dad wanted me to get
married and have a happy life. He told me not to be too bossy and picky otherwise
I’d be all alone for the rest of my life. He even joked about getting me a “taong grasa”
to marry. He was a bully like that.
I miss dad everyday. I will miss him when I get married (someday). I miss his
random messages when I’m not around. I miss his hard advices. I never got the
chance to ask him to teach me how to operate the complicated videoke he bought
for me at home. But I will try anyway.
Despite everything, I hope he’s proud of what I have become. I hope I made him
feel loved. He was my idol. He lived a tough life and he was successful.
I know that dad is now in heaven. I know that he is just sailing around. I know that
he is watching over us.

Til our next reunion, dad.
I’ll see you at the crossroads.

Tuesday, April 28, 2015

Diary: 29.04.2015

In 2005, I went to my first job interview with no work experience but dreams. The boss asked me the usual question as how do I see myself in 10 years. I told him that I'd be working with the United Nations and nowhere else. He then accepted my answer and hired me right there and then.

This year, I am turning 6 with World Food Programme. I cannot express my thoughts into words but I just want to share that whenever I experience, witness, or even watch videos of WFP working on the ground, helping the most vulnerable people, I always remind myself that I must be one lucky lady who got herself hired by the best organization in the world. Others might argue but I get prouder and prouder everyday.

Saturday, April 18, 2015

Extra Mile

Some will boast about how extravagant their work is. Some will tell you their fat pay checks. Some will show their freebies. While some will share their experiences how they've saved someone today. How they've served a stranger. Or how they've crossed the line just to help a family.

And that's not easy but someone had to do it today. You may choose to follow your dreams but your mission in this world is your detiny.


Saturday, January 17, 2015

Ganon.

Sana ganon lang kadali ang buhay.



Sana pwede mo makuha ang trabahong gusto mo at ito rin ang trabahong magpapayaman sayo. Sana totoo ang “walang personalan, trabaho lang.” Sana lahat ng trabaho na binibigay ng trabaho ay nagagawan ng paraan. Sana ganon lang kadali.

Sana hindi mahirap magpapayat. Sana kapag nag skip ka ng meal, mababawasan ka ng taba ng ganon-ganon lang. Sana pag naisipan mo magpapayat at nag exercise ka ng isang araw, mabawasan ka na agad ng timbang. Sana tuloy-tuloy.

Sana crush ka din ng crush mo. Sana kahit yung one time sulyap e maging crush kadin niya. Sana walang effort, tapos MU na kayo. Tapos ma in love nadin siya.. Ganon.

Sana hindi mashado nakaka pressure ang society. Sana kahit lahat sila may boyfriend na or engaged na or may asawa’t anak na e sana wag nila isipin na END OF THE WORLD NA PARA SAYO AT KAILANGAN MO NA DIN MAKITABO. Na sana wag isipin ng mga tao na gusto mo tumanda mag-isa at mamatay ng walang kwenta. Dahil hindi naman totoo yun.

Sana lahat ng tao marunong makiramdam. Para di sila nakakasakit.

Sana pwede mabigay lahat ng bagay na magpapasaya sa magulang. Para quits!

Sana hindi ganon kamahal pumunta at lumibot sa ibang bansa. Sana pwede mo ito pagplanuhan ng isang araw lang tapos lipad kinabukasan.

Sana ganon kadali ang buhay. Pero hindi. 

Hindi natin ito kontrolado. Kailangan natin maging matibay para mabuhay. Pwede ka manalangin. Pwede ka mangarap. Pwede ka din mag-imagine na nangyayari yung mga gusto mo mangyari tapos magigising kadin sa katotohanan na hindi lahat ng bagay pwede mo makuha. Hindi lahat ng gusto mo pwede mapasayo. Dahil ang totoo, kailangan mo makipag-laban. Sa araw-araw ng buhay mo, hindi ganon kadali. Kailangan mo paghirapan para makuha ang kung ano man ang gusto mo. Pero hindi ganon kadali. 

Hindi ka rin pwede mag reklamo.

Minsan nakakagalit, nakakaasar din. Minsan nakaka walang gana. Pwede mo gawin yun. Pwede mo maramdaman. Pero wag mashado. Wag matagal.

Wag forever.







Monday, July 29, 2013

Life As We Know It: Favorite Quotations Part I


I don’t know about you, but there’s nothing more comforting to me than when someone tells the truth about their life. Even when it’s f_cking difficult.  When they just go there, you know? Without the bullsh_t and without hiding behind a carefully crafted people-pleasing persona. When they stand up and say, “Listen, here’s what I’m going through. It’s not pretty, but it’s what’s happening.” And then they rip themselves open and share their truth. (http://www.lifelessbullshit.com/speak-your-truth/)
  • I think I should tell this one to myself. It’s really hard to lay your cards to the world and just expect people to understand it perfectly. I mean, who cares, right? I am always anxious to tell what I really feel about things because I was too afraid to show my weaknesses and I know that nobody really cares if I’m miserable. Well yeah.. whatever.

“Dear God, I’ve tried my best but if today I lose hope, please tell me that your plans are bigger than mine”
  • Faith.

I always pray to God that if ever I get too attached to something that's not meant for me, that God may detach me without making me suffer from separation anxiety.
  • My favorite prayer in the world. I would never surpass all the challenges without this. I believe that it’s a human nature to get attached to something too much but I also believe that always following thy heart will kill me eventually. Just saying.

"When you are kind to someone, you set in motion a chain of events that makes each life it touches a little bit better. One by one, that act of kindness is paid forward ... till one day it comes back to you multiplied."
  • When doing good to others brings you harm, do it anyway. Doing good does not always end up to charity, too much kindness is not applicable in real life.

Don’t get stuck.
  • Life doesn’t owe us anything. We need to accept the fact that sh_t happens sometimes. Acceptance/Healing, though, is a process – and we know it. We just need to deal with it, keep calm, and move on. Better said than done. C’est la vie.

Sometimes you grow out of people. And if you are overwhelmed with the same feeling of “Ugh, why are these people still talking about this tedious shit?” every time you sit down at the same bar with your same group of friends, it may be time to freshen up. It’s not a bad thing to have to trim down contact with certain people — or broaden your social horizons — but we are often convinced that if we feel the need to change things, there is something ultimately wrong with us. Obviously, if you are changing hangouts every two weeks out of a need to avoid people you once called friends, there is an issue. But if you just need to see some new faces (that aren’t 50 percent people you’ve already slept with) once in a while, that’s probably a pretty healthy move. – Thought Catalog
  • I’m glad that I wasn’t the only one who’s gone solo from the groupies and explored more. This is normal, right?

“When you have worked as hard and done as much and strived and tried and given and plead and bargained and hoped - Surrender. When you have done all that you can do, and there is nothing left for you to do. Give it up. Give it up to that thing that is greater than yourself and let it then become a part of the flow.” – Oprah
  • This must be, by far, theee most emotional quotation I’ve ever read in my entire life. I just thought that when I was going through tough times in 2011, this quote lifted me up from the ground. 

 Each man should give what he has decided in his heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. (2 Corinthians 9:7)
  • Doing something you hate is like forcing a dead person to breathe. It will never work.

No one realizes how beautiful it is to travel until he/she comes home and rests his/her head on his/her old, familiar pillow...
  • Travel is wealth.

There comes a point in life when you get tired of chasing everyone and trying to fix everything, but it’s not giving up.  It’s realizing you don’t need certain people and things and the drama they bring. (http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/09/25/30-truths-ive-learned-in-30-years/)
  • We don’t control the world. We don’t control minds either. If some people we value chose to value something else, then f_ck it and let go.


As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not by words, but to live by them.
  • Happy people are the thankful ones. Happiness comes with contentment too. So yeah.. let’s try harder.
  


To be continued………

Saturday, December 29, 2012

2012 - Greatest Realizations


Last year, I wrote a blog about my self realizations for 2011: http://kesico.blogspot.com/2011/12/2011-greatest-realizations.html

Just to be consistent, I'm writing my realizations for this year as well:

  1. Learned by heart the serenity prayer:
  • God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change; Courage to change the things I can; and Wisdom to know the difference.
     2.  Panglao, Bohol is my one true love.

     3.  Love can do impossible things. 

     4.  It can also ruin friendship/s.

     5.  Family first.

     6.  What others think about you is none of your business.

     7.   When you're on your late 20s, stop attending family reunions to avoid "why-are-you-still-single-and- 
           not-yet-married" conversations.

     8.   Quarter-life crisis is real.

     9.   You don't have to burn bridges to avoid people. 

     10.  Happy people are the grateful ones.
     
     11.  Stop the "be yourself" attitude. If you feel that there's something wrong going on, you need to adjust 
            and change for the better to live a happier life.

     12.  Start dreaming again.

     13.  You can't please everybody. Get over it.

     14.  I love airplanes 

     15.  Being nice to someone you dislike doesn't mean you're FAKE. It means you are mature enough
            to tolerate your dislike towards them. 

     16. "Things change. And friends leave. Life doesn't stop for anybody." - Stephen Chbosky

     17.  I'm in love with my niece, baby girl :)

     18.  Date someone who loves to read.

     19.  DAMNED if you. DAMNED if you don't.

     20.  Some people are really plain stupid. Insensitive. And no respect.

     21.  Delicadeza

     22.  OPM is still alive.

     23.  It's More Fun in the Philippines.

     24.  This year was my loneliest birthday ever. 

     25.  My mom still cooks the best spicy spaghetti in the world. Yeahmehn.

     26.  It's not yet end of the world, you foooool!!

     27.  Everybody wants to go to heaven but nobody wants to die first.

     28.  My "The One" is still missing.

     29.  Tattoo hurts like hell.

     30.  It's OK to pretend and act stupid even if you're sober. 


Sunday, October 14, 2012

The Vulture and the Sudanese Child


The priest shared this story to us today. He told us to search for three words: Africa, Poverty, and Vulture. Google brought me here >> 
http://www.squidoo.com/kevin-carters-iconic-photo

The South African photojournalist Kevin Carter won a Pulitzer Prize in 1994 for this controversial photo taken on March 11, 1993. The photographer was in a place near the village of Ayod in Sudan when he saw an emaciated Sudanese child making her way towards a feeding program nearby. When she stopped to rest, a vulture landed behind with his eyes on the little girl, seemingly waiting for the child to die so he could finally devour her remains. 

Click the link for the story ( http://www.squidoo.com/kevin-carters-iconic-photo). Kevin Carter got depressed - committed suicide. Excerpts from Cater's suicide note read: "I'm really, really sorry. The pain of life overrides the joy to the point that joy does not exist...depressed ... without phone ... money for rent ... money for child support ... money for debts ... money! ... I am haunted by the vivid memories of killings & corpses & anger & pain ... of starving or wounded children, of trigger-happy madmen, often police, of killer executioners... I have gone to join Ken if I am that lucky."